http://livelovelearnbreathe.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/little-girls-believe-in-love.jpg When a relationship ends in heartbreak, your world seems to have come to an end. No matter how you lose a partner, through a betrayal, divorce or death, at the time you feel as if you will never be able to find love again. It is quite natural to feel bereft and alone and stop believing in love at the time. But while it is true that a wonderful period of your life seems to have come to an end, it does not mean that the rest of your life needs to end too. Life goes on, no matter what happens and the significant lesson we need to learn from that message is to move on, no matter what has happened. Your heart has been bruised but rest assured, it is not broken, it just feels like that. You should genuinely love yourself and if you do, you will realize that you can find love again. And it is important to go on loving, because there is nothing in this world which makes life more beautiful than love. You might feel insecure and scared to venture into the same path again, but if your trust your instincts and keep yourself open to the prospect of finding love again, you will do so. Depending on your own circumstances of loss, there are some steps that you can take in order to help you find love and happiness again. Accept Your Loss The most difficult part after heartbreak is the prospect of accepting what you have lost and the fact that it is never going to be back. There still seems to be that faint hope lurking in the minds that maybe things will be better. Well, things will definitely be better, but does not necessarily mean that it will be with the same person. You have to accept your loss, in order to let anything else come into your life. Till the moment you cling to the memories and refuse to let go, till then you are not allowing the universe to make anything happen for you. When we lose a loved one through death, the suddenness and unexpected shock of the incident does not allow us to think about our lives at all. But then, our loved ones would not want us to put our lives on hold indefinitely just because we feel too guilty to be happy. There should be a grieving period where you come to terms with your losses, but that should not go on, forever. http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l4lq2uFypk1qcw4vqo1_250.jpg Be Open To Love You have to be open to receiving love, for love to happen in the first place. If you refuse to let yourself be receptive towards love and keep your mind and heart locked away, you will not be able to receive anything from the universe. Learn To Let Go Of The Guilt And Love Yourself When we are left broken-hearted, most of the times we feel inferior and insecure about ourselves. It is a normal feeling because of the fact that we were dumped and so the mind automatically starts finding fault within ourselves. While normal, it is not a healthy feeling and you should start letting go of any feelings of inferiority or guilt. The most important person in your life is you, and you have to learn to love yourself first in order to love someone elseds, you will feel lonely and abandoned. The faster you start socializing and having some sort of involvement with the outside life, the faster you will be able to move on in life. And it always helps to share your grief with someone who cares for you; after all, it will only be lessened. http://www.ayushveda.com/womens-magazine/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/find-love-again-1.jpg Learn To Let Go Of The Guilt And Love Yourself When we are left broken-hearted, most of the times we feel inferior and insecure about ourselves. It is a normal feeling because of the fact that we were dumped and so the mind automatically starts finding fault within ourselves. While normal, it is not a healthy feeling and you should start letting go of any feelings of inferiority or guilt. The most important person in your life is you, and you have to learn to love yourself first in order to love someone else. So go ahead and indulge in some self-love and spiritual healing and set for the road to recovery. Don’t Jump Into Anything Your Ad Here This might sound contradictory when I have been harping about the importance of being open to love. The fact is that there is a time for everything , and jumping into another relationship right after the last one, to get rid of your loneliness is the wrong thing. You need to come to terms with your loss first, otherwise it will be a rebound love and hence a failure. And rebound love affairs are very common and unfortunately do not have any distinct symptoms. So, you should be over your previous relationship completely, for you to discover genuine love again. Don’t Make Comparisons If you seem to have found your new partner and don’t think he matches up to your ex, stop right there. Nobody is perfect, and we always seem to think highly of the things in our past and paint a rosy picture about them. In any case, no two people are alike and just because your new partner has opposite traits from your ex, does not mean that he is bad. The bottom line is that you should not be making comparisons between two people in your lives which is extremely unfair to your new love. If there is a quality which you have always hated then it is a fair deal to reject the person but not because he does not match up to your ex’s standards. It should be your standards, not somebody else’s.